Let's not beat about the bush: it's not that easy to understand how our subconscious mind works and we often don't realize how powerful our subconscious mind really is. It's also common knowledge that we are the biggest obstacle to our own success. But what does this really mean? We may get angry and frustrated when things don't work out well for us and tend to start blaming people or circumstances or just believe it's a result of our "bad luck". Or we may even say it was just "good luck" when things work out well for us. But neither of these is really "the truth."
With this type of thinking, very few people realize that their path to success is really being blocked by their subconscious self-sabotage. That's right; most people don't even know that it's their way of thinking that is hindering their chances of success - and nothing else.
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
You may have tried to accomplish something for a long time without success. If this is true, it may be time to stop and think for a while. Think back. What kind of setbacks and obstacles have you experienced? If you were to experience that right now, would another, perhaps wiser, choice be to enough to overcome that obstacle? Recognize the patterns; is there a certain type of obstacle that's constantly holding you back? Could it be that a certain fear is preventing you from succeeding? Ask yourself: "Why would I sabotage my ways to accomplishment?" This might be able to give you an answer to your problems.
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
With this type of thinking, very few people realize that their path to success is really being blocked by their subconscious self-sabotage. That's right; most people don't even know that it's their way of thinking that is hindering their chances of success - and nothing else.
To be able to relieve the problem of self-sabotage it's important to understand the role that fear and emotions play - especially when they are related to our actions. Finding the exact cause of any destructive behavior is the answer to being able to prevent it in the future. So how do you do this? Simple, learn from your failures and don't make the same mistakes twice. Why? Well if you can't identify the cause of the problem then how can you prevent it? But what exactly happens when we self-sabotage?
Many times people simply fail to consistency make an effort towards what they say they want. For example, when we want to lose weight, we start out with an unrealistic level of expectation and excitement and expect very good results in a short period of time. We try different diets and push really hard when doing exercise (if we do any at all!) But guess what happens when the pounds don't melt away on the first day, week or month? Guess when happens when we look in mirror and don't see a supermodel or body of an Adonis looking back? Yep, you guessed it. We give up. We don't work harder. We just throw in the towel instead. But what if this reaction is giving us some kind of excuse for failure? Maybe we say we want to lose weight but really we just want to try, fail and complain. It's easier than dieting and exercising! If you're saying you want to get trim, taut and traffic but you eat junk food and skip exercises then you're sabotaging. Simple as that. But it's easier to make excuses isn't it? Doing the hard work is always unappealing. That's why it's called "hard work!"
However, people who self-sabotage may also think that they're simply not worthy of achieving their goals. They may fear what people would think of them if they were to accomplish the goals they've set. Therefore, the subconscious self-sabotage is ensuring a failed endeavor. When one thinks like this, they have essentially tricked themselves into believing they know what they want to accomplish. But if there is just the slightest fear or doubt about their decision to achieve their goals they will always find a way to ensure they won't succeed. Not ideal is it!? Do you feel like you're stuck? That no matter how much effort you put into it, you simply can't seem to succeed with your goals? Perhaps the description above fits you, and you may be a saboteur yourself.
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
You may have tried to accomplish something for a long time without success. If this is true, it may be time to stop and think for a while. Think back. What kind of setbacks and obstacles have you experienced? If you were to experience that right now, would another, perhaps wiser, choice be to enough to overcome that obstacle? Recognize the patterns; is there a certain type of obstacle that's constantly holding you back? Could it be that a certain fear is preventing you from succeeding? Ask yourself: "Why would I sabotage my ways to accomplishment?" This might be able to give you an answer to your problems.
When we finally understand that we are in control of our own success, we will be set free from all limitations! By developing clarity and insight about the outcomes we want to create, and the awareness for potential setbacks, we can stop the self-sabotage and focus our energies on working toward new goals that we will fully support in every way. We will then look back one day and see that instead of being our own worst saboteur, we have become our best supporter.
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