Saturday 15 August 2015

The Frying Pan Of Life?!

By Evan Sanders


Changing your life isn't easy. It's hard. I mean, surprisingly hard.

For anyone who really has attempted to make some significant changes in their life because they couldn't handle living in a similar way any longer, you've possibly experienced the growing pains that come along with deciding to live in another way. You are continually tested, you fail time and time again, and it's very tricky to see the world in the light of cheerfulness.

Nonetheless it doesn't necessarily need to be that way.

You see, people struggle with deep change because they don't know how to act when the negative emotions start bubbling up. They suspect that because negativity is occuring that they must be doing it all wrong. No! Not in any way. Actually if you are struggling and it hurts a little, you are actually doing things right. You're growing. You're moving past your zone of comfort.

When you're going through huge changes, you're going to come across some significant obstacles. Agony is going to come out to play, your internal critic is going to run wild, and you are going to have some struggles. That is fantasically ok! That really means you are heading in the correct direction. Don't give up now when you're suffering discomfort. Keep going and see it all the way through and you may cross the finish line a transformed person.

The "Frying Pan Of Life" is all about how to get sufficiently near to the discomfort to work with it without being consumed by it. When you are creating a new life, old things have a tendency to flow out and you have got to spend some time working with them. This is a standard part of the growing process. But you've got to work with them because if you don't, you run the risk of allowing the past to sabotage your dreams.

So how does one do this?

You have to get near enough to the pain and experience it without getting utterly consumed by it. You've got to be pleased to bring yourself to the unpleasant places and let the thoughts and feelings swirl around you without taking you completely out of the game. When that can be done, you give yourself access to the lessons and light that are held within that dark place.

This takes a little bit of talent and lots of practice, but if you can actually spend some time working in these dark areas with some compassion and love, you can defrost even the coldest of hearts.




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