Most of us fear death, the uncertainties and unknown that lie behind it. What is next after it? How to cope with it? How will you go on with life knowing that someone dear to you will never be with you ever again? A famous Japanese writer named Haruki Murakami once said in his novel that death is not the opposite of life but an innate part of it. Death as such is an inevitable fact of life - nobody is spared from it. Then again, being inevitable doesn't change the fact that the experience of dying and death is one of the most painful human experiences. Loss gives us deep sorrow that neither sincerity nor kindness can cure or even alleviate.
A Swiss American psychiatrist, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross started several studies about near death experiences, death and dying and she came up with the famous "Five Stages of Grief". She explained that there are 5 fundamental stages of bereavement however, a person who is grieving does not necessarily experience all the stages nor in specific order.
The five stages of grieving is commonly known as the acronym DABDA. Letter D, which is the first phase, stands for denial. This stage is characterised by the temporary unconscious and conscious defence mechanism of denial. Letter A, the second phase, stands for anger. This stage is characterised by a strong feeling of rage towards oneself or to others in attempt to release tension that is brought about by the distressing experience. Letter B, the third stage, stands for bargaining. This phase is characterised by extreme feeling of hope that it is possible to postpone or negotiate the situation. Letter D, the fourth stage, stands for depression. The stage is characterised by feelings of deep sorrow, pain, detachment and fear. The last letter A, which is the fifth and final phase, stands for acceptance. This phase is characterised by gradual acceptance of the crisis and the individual starts to move on.
As humans we have strong regard to our departed loved-ones. As a matter of fact, this specific trait sets us apart from the rest of the animals in the animal kingdom. In connection to that, it is customary for almost all cultures in the world to conduct funeral ceremonies for the departed. In the cosmopolitan Merlion City, most funeral service Singapore provides comprehensive rites that take in to account the departed's beliefs and customs.
Without a shadow of doubt, losing a loved one can be emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually stressful. So preparing for the funeral is quite overwhelming. Nowadays, funeral planners have been equipped to provide a descent, beautiful and peaceful funeral service. This includes physician's certification of death, carrying of the deceased's remains to the funeral home, servicing of casket (for cremation or burial), clothing for the departed also called as Shou Yee, funeral car, ceremonial rites and practices, floral decoration, food services and photography.
A Swiss American psychiatrist, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross started several studies about near death experiences, death and dying and she came up with the famous "Five Stages of Grief". She explained that there are 5 fundamental stages of bereavement however, a person who is grieving does not necessarily experience all the stages nor in specific order.
The five stages of grieving is commonly known as the acronym DABDA. Letter D, which is the first phase, stands for denial. This stage is characterised by the temporary unconscious and conscious defence mechanism of denial. Letter A, the second phase, stands for anger. This stage is characterised by a strong feeling of rage towards oneself or to others in attempt to release tension that is brought about by the distressing experience. Letter B, the third stage, stands for bargaining. This phase is characterised by extreme feeling of hope that it is possible to postpone or negotiate the situation. Letter D, the fourth stage, stands for depression. The stage is characterised by feelings of deep sorrow, pain, detachment and fear. The last letter A, which is the fifth and final phase, stands for acceptance. This phase is characterised by gradual acceptance of the crisis and the individual starts to move on.
As humans we have strong regard to our departed loved-ones. As a matter of fact, this specific trait sets us apart from the rest of the animals in the animal kingdom. In connection to that, it is customary for almost all cultures in the world to conduct funeral ceremonies for the departed. In the cosmopolitan Merlion City, most funeral service Singapore provides comprehensive rites that take in to account the departed's beliefs and customs.
Without a shadow of doubt, losing a loved one can be emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually stressful. So preparing for the funeral is quite overwhelming. Nowadays, funeral planners have been equipped to provide a descent, beautiful and peaceful funeral service. This includes physician's certification of death, carrying of the deceased's remains to the funeral home, servicing of casket (for cremation or burial), clothing for the departed also called as Shou Yee, funeral car, ceremonial rites and practices, floral decoration, food services and photography.
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