Tuesday 25 February 2014

3 Secrets That Will Force Your Ex To Call You Back

By Alexandra Peterson


The need to talk to your ex can be overwhelming at times. The urge to call your ex and want to talk about what went wrong in your relationship can turn to frustration if your ex is avoiding your calls. Is there a way to force your ex to return your call or make your ex pick up the phone when you call?

Surely, talking on the phone is the first step to getting back together with your ex, right? After all, how can you possibly talk about reuniting if your ex won't communicate with you. The problem is that your ex has no desire to talk about getting back together right now. This is why they're avoiding your calls. In order for you to connect with your ex again, you're going to have to be clever. You're going to have to be patient and these tricks will help you to get back in touch with your ex and have the two of you talking again in the shortest amount of time possible.

If you have been calling your ex a lot and leaving messages, you need to stop for a period of time. Your ex may be annoyed with all the phone calls and if you have been trying to convince your ex to talk about the breakup then they are going to avoid your calls completely. Nobody likes to talk about unpleasant things and although your ex made the decision to end your relationship, this is difficult for them also.

Usually a week or two of not calling your ex or trying to contact them through alternate routes will be necessary. The more you have been calling, the longer you should wait before you try getting in touch with your ex again. Waiting two weeks or more before trying to contact your ex again is a good rule of thumb but you can wait longer to improve your chances of getting a positive response from them.

Secondly, your life during this period where you're not going to contact your ex should be shrouded in mystery. If you ex has been checking up on you through mutual friends or if your ex is friends with your family, you don't want them to find out anything about you through them. You want your ex to get their information directly from the source. You want your ex to begin to wonder what happened to you and what's going on in your life. Don't let anyone know that you're sad about your breakup and avoid posting things to your social networking profiles that might make your ex think that you're still in love with them.

You can leverage your social networking profile by posting funny pictures that you find that improve your mood or optimistic songs that make you happy. If you find it difficult to resist the temptation to post songs that remind you of your ex or status updates that are sad or depressing then it's better to do nothing at all.

Before you try to call your ex again, you should try a simple text message after you have avoided contacting them for a period of time. These days, sending text messages before you talk to your ex on the phone has become a kind of rule. When a couple is arguing or when there are bad feelings between two people, the impersonal nature of text messaging allows you to say what you need to say without having to worry about your tone of voice. This will work to your benefit.

It will be best if you keep things short and sweet when you send your first message to your ex. A simple message that is upbeat and positive should do the trick after you have waited the proper amount of time. Avoid talking about the breakup or getting back together and don't become frustrated if your ex doesn't reply back to you immediately. Be patient and wait until he replies. When he does reply, think your response through before sending it and make your messages appear to be happy and positive. Avoid arguing or becoming upset through your messages and match the length and frequency to what your ex sends you. You can progress to talking on the phone by asking your ex to call you by saying that you have something funny to tell them but you can't be bothered with typing it all out.

Your desire to talk with your ex and hear their voice may make life difficult at times. The pain that you're feeling and the rejection that you're bound to experiencing might cause you to impulsively reach for the phone. Your ex was your best friend and your confidante. Every time something happens in your life your mind will automatically think of your ex. You will want to share something with them or tell them what happened to you today. You may feel very alone at times but you can solve this problem.

As you can see, this simple plan for getting your ex to talk with you again will get things back on the right path. These methods will allow you to recreate that connection that you once shared and to get your ex back in your life. Be patient and avoid the temptation to call your ex and you will see that they will begin to miss you. Your contact will probably be welcome after a very short period of time and you very well may catch your ex at a moment when they need you as much as you need them.




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