Wednesday 28 August 2013

How To Approach A Woman On The Street

By J. Ryu


You're walking down the street, minding your own business, then there it is, an extremely cute girl walking along staring at her iphone. You're convinced she is your dream girl and possible future wife and if you let her walk on and out of your life, you'll be missing out on the opportunity of a lifetime. What do you do? What can you do?

Arguably, approaching a woman cold, off the street is one of the hardest pickups to do. A girl on the street feels open and vulnerable so if a strange guy walks up, her guard will be up. Have you ever had a complete stranger come up to you on the street? Feels odd doesn't it? Then should you give up and let her walk on and out of your life? Hell no !

1. Eye contact

As soon as you see her take action! A street approach has to feel spontaneous to the woman, not like a canned pick up or they will feel uneasy. Make eye contact as soon as possible and keep your eyes locked, too, so she understands that it wasn't just chance that your eyes met.

When eye contact is made, make sure she understands you are trying to get her attention. Wave, nod, something clearly attention getting. You want to establish contact before you approach which helps the woman prepare psychologically for a complete stranger accosting them.

2. Open Body Language

Upon approach, wear an innocent smile! A smile is welcoming, contagious, conveys openness and innocence and will help lower her guard. Also, use open body language! Make sure your body language is not confrontational and direct but responding to her reactions toward you.

Incorporate hand gestures into your conversation. This will not just help her to follow your conversation if you're somewhere hectic, but will also keep her attention on you. On the street, it will be simple for her to get distracted, particularly if she wasn't totally convinced it was worth stopping to talk.

Use your hands to keep her eyes focused on you. Using your hands will also display confidence. Don't keep them in your pockets with your shoulders slouched. You know what you want and you think she'll want it too. Make that Clear.

3. The Game

On a street approach you want to keep your lines and talk light, innocent, and relaxed. The trick in a street approach is to lower her raised guard. This is done by you conveying a relaxed, casual, innocent tone. You also want to introduce yourself and what you want as quickly as you're in so you're not a stranger to her. No canned pickup lines in street approaches under any conditions!

A busy woman on the street has somewhere to go so you have to be quick and bold. Don't run after her, your eye contact and waving should be bold enough to convince her to stop. From there, you know what to do. Flirt, compliment, engage. Make her so intrigued by you that she wants to know more.

Don't get too flirty too quick - remember that you just met on the street and you don't even know if she's single - but if her body language is saying "yes," go ahead and ask for a chance to see her again. Stopping someone on the street is a little creepy if you don't handle yourself correctly. The trick is getting her attention and then letting her know how innocent and honest your intentions are.




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