Wednesday 19 March 2014

Do You Need Relationship Help For Your Marriage?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Few marriages are perfect and have never needed any form of help to maintain. Marriages that don't have good relationships are likely the ones that won't last. If they do last, the couple aren't usually happy and they are more likely to fail.

A marriage and a relationship are two very different things. In a marriage, you've formed a bond with another person that is before God, law and man. You are united until death or divorce do you part.

A relationship on the other hand, is a meaningful sense of well being formed after the marriage takes place that will grow and deepen as long as the two parties maintain their union. In many cases, the relationship actually begins prior to the marriage.

Sadly, others may notice that your relationship and marriage are crumbling well before you notice it. They'll see you going to functions without your other half and giving an excuse for their absence.

If you're a couple, the more you're out without one another, the more likely your relationship needs help. When you are together you likely don't do a lot of talking, you may simply sit with one another but not really say anything or worse, you may pretend the other person is interesting all the while hoping the event is over soon.

Other warning signs of a troubled relationship may be a big lack of interest when it comes to being intimate. You are both attractive and young, but there just isn't any spark anymore. At the same time, you may fantasize about other people.

There is no more affection, no kisses, no hugs and no "I Love You" being said to each other. We're human folks, we all need these things. You have a serious problem and you need to fix this or move on.

Jealousy is a huge turn off as well. When carried to the extreme it can destroy a relationship. It ruins intimacy as one spouse is always worried they don't measure up. It tempts people to be unfaithful and it can cause partners to hold back their true feelings.

Make sure to not exaggerate the situation and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is a problem, you'll need to seek help. If intimacy is to be a part of the relationship, then jealousy must go.

Problems in marriage can arise form debt, not enough money is a serious issue. If two people work together on a budget this is less of a problem. Live within your means. It really does help.

Living within a budget can actually save a relationship. Too much debt can put a serious strain on the marriage. When either spouse constantly overspends and they are drowning in a sea of debt, then the marriage will also begin to sink.

All marriages run into problems at some time or another. Disagreements and conflicts are going to occur. They are to be expected. However, from time to time, just make sure you take a look at your relationship to make sure you and your spouse are happy with where you are. If any adjustments need to be made, just make them and keep moving forward.




About the Author:



No comments:

Post a Comment