It's quite normal for you to have an intense desire to get back together with your wife or ex-girlfriend after she broke up with you. She was your best friend and the person that you cared about the most in this world. The rejection from having someone that close to you can be overwhelming and difficult to deal with emotionally. It has taken a toll on your male ego, your self-confidence and you are left with a giant hole in your life. Wanting to get her back in your life again as soon as possible is probably on your mind throughout most of your day. You should realize though that your attitude and how you deal with your ex is more important than any plan that you might hatch to get her back.
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
First, the attitude that you need to adopt when it comes to your girlfriend or wife or any woman, for that matter, is one of indifference. In short, you need to be willing to walk away both figuratively and literally when she begins to treat you poorly. If she yells at you, has an attitude with you or if she acts disrespectful towards you in any way, you need to be willing to walk away. This attitude will permeate your soul and be evident to your ex in your body language as well as your actions.
You might worry that your ex will be offended or that she will laugh at you but the opposite is true. The moment you are willing to walk away, she loses the power in the relationship. Once you stop tolerating bad behavior from a woman, you take the power back. Try it sometime. The next time any woman treats you poorly, tell her that you don't have to put up with this since she isn't your girlfriend and physically walk away. You might be surprised by how quickly things will change. You will have passed her test and she will have a new found respect for you.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
While you're waiting for your girlfriend or wife to come back to you, this is your time to shine. This is your time to not only rebuild your life but build the kind of life that you dream about. You have a choice. You can waste precious days, weeks or months being upset, sad and lonely or you can make plans for what you wish to accomplish with your life. Make a list of your dreams and goals. Think big and don't hold anything back. Your breakup might be the best thing that ever happened to you. You get a fresh start on life. Whether your girlfriend or wife wants to be a part of it is up to her but who wouldn't want to be a part of the life that you are creating?
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
First, the attitude that you need to adopt when it comes to your girlfriend or wife or any woman, for that matter, is one of indifference. In short, you need to be willing to walk away both figuratively and literally when she begins to treat you poorly. If she yells at you, has an attitude with you or if she acts disrespectful towards you in any way, you need to be willing to walk away. This attitude will permeate your soul and be evident to your ex in your body language as well as your actions.
You might worry that your ex will be offended or that she will laugh at you but the opposite is true. The moment you are willing to walk away, she loses the power in the relationship. Once you stop tolerating bad behavior from a woman, you take the power back. Try it sometime. The next time any woman treats you poorly, tell her that you don't have to put up with this since she isn't your girlfriend and physically walk away. You might be surprised by how quickly things will change. You will have passed her test and she will have a new found respect for you.
If you have every let your wife or ex-girlfriend see you upset, crying or emotionally distraught over your breakup, that has to end. Never let your ex know that you're upset, sad, lonely or missing them. Always have a smile on your face or a happy demeanor any time you're in public and especially when you see your ex. Your body language should be of a man that is confident, secure and happy with life. You have the freedom now to create the life that you dream about and you feel good about yourself. The sky is the limit and every day you are getting better and better. You have a lot going for you and you are free to live your life the way you want.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
While you're waiting for your girlfriend or wife to come back to you, this is your time to shine. This is your time to not only rebuild your life but build the kind of life that you dream about. You have a choice. You can waste precious days, weeks or months being upset, sad and lonely or you can make plans for what you wish to accomplish with your life. Make a list of your dreams and goals. Think big and don't hold anything back. Your breakup might be the best thing that ever happened to you. You get a fresh start on life. Whether your girlfriend or wife wants to be a part of it is up to her but who wouldn't want to be a part of the life that you are creating?
With a strong, positive attitude you can change your life and change how your ex thinks and feels about you. Your fears are unfounded and you will find later on down the road that all the things that you are worrying about are wrong. You might think that your ex will be upset if you don't appear to miss her when in actuality she will feel sad herself. You worry about moving on with your life because you fear that your ex will think that this means that you don't love her. The truth is that she will feel left out and begin to feel attracted to you because of your new attitude. Take the bull by the horns and stand up for yourself. Be strong and you will find that your ex and every other woman on the face of the planet will find you more attractive. Soon your ex will be knocking on your door or calling you on the phone to find out how you are and what you've been up to. This is the first sign that she wants to get back together. Will you be prepared to talk to her when that moment comes?
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