Friday 23 January 2015

An Overview On Dealing With Insecurities In A Relationship

By Janine Hughes


Living in constant fear that you might lose your partner can cripple your relationship. There are some thoughts that engulf the mind of a person which are non-beneficial. Such feelings are expressed as jealousy. Almost everyone experience insecurities at one point or another in their lives. Such feelings should however not hinder your ability to maintain your relationships. Getting the right advice or opinion might assist one in dealing with insecurities in a relationship.

First the notion that the whole world revolves around your doorstep is one of the causes of insecurities. Self-centered behaviors result into trivial misunderstandings resulting into serious problems. When your partners refuse to eat, there are those who readily assume it might be an indirect criticism of their cooking probably.

Developing these thoughts can result in a communication breakdown between the two of you. At times one might approach the other on a confrontational stance. This only moves the situation from bad to worse. An advisable way to approach such situations is by discussing them in a very civil and sober manner with your partner.

Jealousy is a gradual breaker of many relationships. For a relationship to remain healthy and thrive, one of the key pillars should be trust. As soon as proper ways of addressing insecurities are adopted and the situation addressed, levels of trust shall accordingly improve.

People are different on the ways they deal with different situations. A good idea is joining health or fitness programs. Chill out with peers, work colleagues or going shopping at the mall too. As long as the mind is preoccupied on subjects that bring joy its kept distracted from the unnecessary anxiety.

Some of the signs of such a situation developing are when one hears the other saying that they need some space. In some cases your partner may ask you why you keep asking about their whereabouts after every few hour intervals. These insecure people tend to fill every moment that silence prevails with some words that they need not say.

At times the thoughts that run through the mind of a person could be their undoing or boost and have a direct effect on their relationship. Unnecessary negative thoughts only make one worry about issues that are not important at all. They have less to do when it comes to the real world but more on your perceptions. What this means is that a situation might arise that should not be in the first place.

Bad days at work, sickness, bad sleep or depression are some of these causes. Once you switch into that negative mind frame, it is really easy to get unnecessary thoughts on the worst of situations. There is a saying that the actions of a person speak louder than words. Keep open and approach your partner is a soft approach while asking any concern one has. Communication is vital, do not keep things to yourself, speak up.




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