Tuesday 30 April 2013

Understanding the Way Men Think

By Kit Karson


Ever heard men say that they just don't understand women? And we've all heard women complain about how inconsiderate or badly behaved their partner is. The real problem is that men and women really do think and react differently to each. When men shut women out, the first thing they do is wonder what they've done wrong.

Women are much different than men. It is just the way they are constructed psychologically and emotionally. Whether they are in love or upset, they cannot stop thinking about the situation. Their imagination runs wild filling in the blanks about what could have happened in the case of a breakup.

Women can be thinking about several things at once while watching television, which is the opposite of men. They can be getting the kids to take a bath, thinking about what is for dessert and work tomorrow. They are always thinking as well as doing.

Women are predominantly governed by emotion. They actually get flooded by emotions when things upset them. They get depressed easily, cry and call their best friend to talk it out. Their emotions don't settle down that easily and it takes time before they can function normally after being really upset.

Men and women are hardwired very differently. That is one of the reasons why men say they do not understand women, and why women have a hard time in love relationships. Their world centers around their partner, while men center themselves more around work.

When women have to deal with men who won't talk to them when they are upset, women feel unloved, unheard and unappreciated. They want to talk it out because their emotions are almost forcing them to. That is why they want the last word almost always. Men want to get away from it all and go think about something else until they process it with a solution which is key.

If more men would listen to their mate when they are truly upset, relationships would have a way to get back on track much sooner. Once people know what they have to do once their has been an argument, the fighting would die down and they wouldn't think of breaking up. If they only understood that there really are differences in how the sexes handle being upset, life would be much easier for both of them.

Women need to realize that men aren't planning on leaving them permanently because of an argument. However, they do need to leave their men alone and deal with their emotions on their own until their mate is ready to talk. Relationships can be so much better when the people involved understand the real differences in their relationship. Soul mates are hard to come by, so don't loose yours.




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