Saturday, 6 April 2013

How to Gain Confidence - You Can Develop Hope

By Jack H. Sousa


We all want to become more confident and feel good about ourselves so we can live our very best life. Here are some ways to gain confidence and raise self-esteem:Do something that requires a decision and a follow-through.Have you been putting off writing that letter to aunt Martha? Is there a friend you've been meaning to call? Wash the car, tidy the garden or clean the house. You'll gain confidence by setting goals (even small ones) and following through on them.Enjoy something you do well.
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This ignores two important facts. One is that we are not simply victims of our external situations. We can choose our response to any given situation. When we look at one person caught in a traffic jam having a tantrum and another relaxing in their car like they are on a beach, we can see that the same situation has brought out two different responses. The traffic jam does not have an automatic response it brings out in people. It is a neutral event and we choose to shed a positive or negative light on it based on our own beliefs and thoughts.

Secondly, our hope stems from the things we focus on. We can actively develop hope long before anything good or bad happens to us in a particular area of our life. Yes, that's right, we can develop hope. How?We develop hope by focussing on things that give us hope. By shifting our focus to the positives, we automatically create feelings of hope. For instance, if you continually think about your successes in life, you will be more inclined to feel strong and good about yourself. If you focus on what is working at the moment (rather than what is wrong) you will feel better.

Also if you get in the habit of focussing on the things you can control and not obsess about stuff that is totally out of your realm of influence, you will increase your feelings of hope.Developing hope is a habit. If you make it a habit to focus on the positives and what you can do to make things better, you will feel better about yourself and definitely more hopeful.Here are three things that you should understand in order to fight with your insecurities and gain more confidence.

The practice of meditation has gained popularity for this reason. You might want to look into Tai Chi, which involves physical relaxation techniques.Whatever method you decide on, take relaxation seriously. The benefits are just too great to ignore. If you've never considered relaxation important, think of it this way: if you can attend to something that results in feeling good, how can you not gain confidence in your personal abilities?

Patience. Learning how to gain self confidence is like fishing with a fishing rod, in a way. Let me explain. have you ever tried to fish with a fishing rod and you see something happen. You reel in to see if something happened. You find the fish has broke lose. You get pissed and throw it back in the water. This happens 5-10 times before you catch anything. In the mean time your friend is pulling up the fish every single time and he is laughing of joy. He is patient... he knows that when the fish bites, it takes a little bit of time before the hook is 100% attached. The point here is that, if something doesn't work for you, throw the rod back in and try again. When you want to give up the most, you know you are the closest!

Dating is simply defined as the act of meeting a person and taking time to know him/her better. This is usually a very exciting process, especially for first timers in dating. The first date is crucial in forming the foundation for a potential relationship. As they say, first impression lasts, and I agree. When your first date doesn't go as well as planned, your date may choose not to see you again. This can feel disappointing since most of us long to meet and connect with someone who can actually complement our personality. Losing the opportunity to build a lasting relationship with someone can feel frustrating, but I've found out that confidence is the key to a successful first date. Here are 4 important tips on gaining self-confidence while dating.First, look good. The number one thing that your date will see during your first date is your outward appearance. Good personal hygiene and dressing appropriately is a plus point for a successful first date.

How to gain confidence to speak a foreign language? If you are asking yourself this question, you are in the right place! I'm going to show you three tips on how to work on your confidence, stop being shy and become a fluent speaker. Here they are!This is the most important thing that you need to understand. There are no mistakes - there is only feedback. You can't learn anything without making mistakes. Making mistakes is an inherent part of learning new languages. Treat mistakes as your friends, because they are your friends - they will help you learn a new language!

You don't need to start with speaking with native speakers. You can start with some easy things such as writing a few words on YouTube (comment videos), participating in online communities (for example message boards) or chatting online (you can use Sharedtalk to speak with other learners and native speakers).Easier said than done, but this is the whole "secret" - if you want to gain confidence to speak a foreign language, you need to speak a lot. It will probably be stressful at the beginning, but that's how you expand your comfort zone - by stepping outside of it. Sometimes it's better to just go for it.

That's it - three tips on how to gain confidence to speak a foreign language. It's all a matter of how badly you want to speak a foreign language fluently. Learning languages isn't only about grammar or vocabulary, it's also about you and your communication skills. Work on your confidence every day and I'm pretty sure that you will quickly overcome your fear. Good luck!




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