Saturday, 18 May 2013

Marriage Counseling: Exactly How Humor Lightens Everything

By Paul D. Arnold


Communication is what marriage counseling programs teach to spouses to address problems and issues that are affecting the relationship. Since it is very hard to discuss those issues with patience, a couple must first learn to consistently make use of patience and humor in their relationship. It makes the communication lighter and allows you to become more patient to your partner. You have to understand that this takes time to master and there'll be issues along the way.

Laughing Out Loud

One easy way to access one's patience is to get into the person's sense of humor. You and your partner might have forgotten about the importance of humor in your communication that is why problems are very difficult to resolve now. You have to know that people should be able to laugh at themselves or the things that they get stuck with occasionally. Without this, you will have a more challenging time in forgiving somebody or more likely to feel like both of you are killing each other.

Marriage counseling really encourages couples to laugh together. Not just that it makes a lighter mood, but it makes problems much easier to solve. It removes the tension you and your spouse experiences from the things that kept the two of you so busy as of late, and it'll help you feel connected. With regards to humor, that doesn't mean that you should laugh at someone else's expense, your partner. You need to understand the sensitivities of your partner too which could be identified in marriage counseling programs.

The Benefit Of The Doubt

Another practical way to use patience and humor in the relationship is to give your partner the "benefit of the doubt". You're not married to a jerk, right? So, your spouse might have committed the mistake accidentally. When you realize that your partner did not mean to hurt you in purpose, it becomes easier to forgive.

Your spouse for example, had to take the trash out but immediately ignored you saying that "I'm on it", you have to assume that your partner had an urgent task to do and there was no intention to ignore your request. By giving the "benefit of the doubt", it allows you to keep yourself away from anger that makes it easier for you to access your patience and humor.

A Moment Of Grace

Marriage counseling teaches "A Moment of Grace" that is going to help you and your partner to embrace patience and humor in the relationship. This is a moment when you give a 5 second pause when your spouse accidentally says something hurtful or not saying the words you needed to hear when you communicate. With this, it provides your partner some time to realize the error and get it right immediately.

Patience and laughter make it easier for you to forgive in the relationship. This is the reason why it's developed in marriage counseling so you and your partner can go on with your lives happily and build the marriage around love, patience, and humor. Take your time to pause when your partner blows it, give the "benefit of the doubt", and be happy!




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