Wednesday 20 November 2013

What To Do When Your Girlfriend Starts Dating Another Guy

By Brent Peterson


You were bound to find out sooner or late but all the same it hurts. It hurts to know that your girlfriend left you for another guy. You knew that it was going to be difficult to get her back but now that she is with someone else you fear that you will never be able to win her over. She picked him over you. He has stolen her heart from you but you should know that all of this is only temporary. It doesn't matter how handsome he is or how much money he has. You can still win her back.

It's a common misconception that women are attracted to the most handsome or wealthy men. Most guys think that a girl judges a guy by the clothes he wears, how expensive his watch is or how big his muscles are but for a woman, lasting love is built on something just a little bit different. A woman falls in love with a guy because of how he makes her feel. The guy that can make a woman feel those intense romantic feelings is the man that will win in the end every time. The man that can be himself and build an intense romantic connection with a woman will win out over a guy with all the other things in life going for him.

Since you're broken up right now, chances are that you haven't been yourself for some time. During the time leading up to the breakup and after your breakup you have probably been acting a little strange. Maybe you were so desperate to save your relationship that you acted a little crazy. You wanted to talk about things or make things right. You were willing to sacrifice whatever was necessary to win her back and as a result you came off weak, needy and desperate.

All the while, the other man had your girlfriend right where he wanted her. He didn't have to try and he probably didn't even care about her the way that you did. All he had to do was be there for her and listen to her and the bond was made. He would agree with her about everything and tell her that he would behave differently. He was her port in a storm and she felt free to connect with him. When she was with him it was as if he was her refuge from her relationship that she felt smothered in.

You can create that same kind of connection. You had that connection with her at one time. Sure, things went a little sideways in your relationship and it's quite possible that at this point she isn't talking with you but all that can change. You can turn things around and get that second chance. You can move her emotionally and help her to come to the conclusion all on her own that you're the best thing that ever happened to her. You can show her that you're a great guy, her best friend in the world and the one that truly makes her happy.

Before you can win her over and prove to her that you're the man that she needs in her life, you have to pull yourself together. This means no more needy behavior. There will be no more trying to win her over. You need to let this happen naturally. Get yourself back. You are the guy that she fell in love with. Find that happy guy that she loved to talk to and help him to get his life back together. Look at things from her point of view and love her selflessly. Be ready to be there for her and to recreate that connection as if that other guy never existed. You have the upper hand because you love her and you understand her better than anyone in the world.




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