Thursday 21 November 2013

Your Best Bet For Getting Your Girlfriend Back

By Douglas Chung


The frustration of trying to win over your ex girlfriend or trying to get her to even consider getting back together can be frustrating. I hope to help you out a little bit with this. I want to share with you a secret that will get her wanting to talk with you again and at least open that door to reconciliation again. I want you to be happy and I know how difficult it is to deal with being apart from someone you care about. I know the sadness and pain that a breakup can cause and it's my life's work to bring couples back together even when things seem impossible.

Do you feel like your ex is living in a totally different reality and you feel like you simply can't win? How can you straighten things out and get back to that loving relationship that you both once shared? How can you turn things around and make your ex see that you truly love them with all your heart?

Sometimes, trying to get back together with your ex is like trying to herd cats. No matter how hard you try and how well meaning your intentions might be, your ex goes in a different direction and they simply don't see the big picture. No matter what tactic you try, conversations and meanings become weapons used against you. There is a reason behind this and there is something that you can do to turn things around.

Right now your ex has it in their mind that your only goal is to get back together. Any promises that you make or words that you speak are tainted by your seeming desire to posess them and get back together with them.

Likewise, with your ex-girlfriend, the best thing that you can do is to be calm, be quiet and let her come to you. She will become interested, like a cat. If there is something going on in your life, she will want to know what you're doing or what you're playing with. Once you stop chasing her, she will stop running away from you. The flight instinct will no longer be in effect. She might sit for a little while to be sure that you're not going to chase her again and then she will become interested in what you're doing.

Likewise, if you ignore your ex-boyfriend for a while, go about your business and start doing interesting things, he will want to be a part of your life again. There is nothing that you can say to him right now that's going to make a bit of difference. No amount of logic is going to make him want to be a part of your life. He is throwing a tantrum and he's not thinking logically. He will calm down all on his own and if your life and what you are doing is interesting he will want to be a part of it.

Remember, you must first stop chasing your ex girlfriend before you put this plan into action. This means a week or so of no contact or being elusive if you see her often. Be short and sweet if you see her on any sort of a regular basis. If you don't have regular contact with her and you have been writing to her or calling her then stop doing that starting today. Allow a week or so to pass and then begin your counter-intelligence campaign. Her curiosity will be more than she can handle.

These two steps are a good basic way to get your ex back. Allow some time to pass and create a life that your ex would be interested in being a part of. Once there is interest and the smoke has cleared from the breakup, you can gently remind your ex of all the pleasant and fun memories that you had together. There's no pushing or convincing or trickery here. This is just good, basic relationship advice that can help you to get your ex back.




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