Tuesday 25 December 2012

How Can I Get Self Confidence

By Donnie C. Carroll


As a child, I was quiet and shy and I thought Self-Confidence was something you either had or didn't have - like being tall or having red hair. Actually, I thought it was something that the "lucky" people had. Fortunately for me, I learned that Self-Confidence is a quality that can be developed. In fact, I find Self-Confidence to be a wonderful byproduct of understanding and applying the Law of Attraction. With the Law of Attraction, you can enjoy the Self-Confidence that comes from knowing who you really are, from knowing how life works, from knowing how to make your dreams come true. With the Law of Attraction, the Self-Confidence is available to everyone.


[How Can I Get Self Confidence]



Brian Tracy, in his remarkable self confidence program, The Science of Self-Confidence, outlines the importance of self confidence in every area of your life. The ability to achieve your goals relies heavily upon your belief in yourself. Whether you belief you can or whether you believe you can't, either way you will be right. What you believe and what you feel certain about is what you act upon - or what you fail to act upon.

There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence. It may sound contradictory, but this is how life is.Talent can be an important component of self-confidence, but it is certainly not a substitute for self-confidence. So, don't worry about lack of talent. Harness the skills that you possess.

I must admit that I was one of those people who firmly believed that one gets born with confidence. I mean, have you ever seen someone who is really self confident and truly self assured. They just seem so in control and so alive; as if nothing can stop them. Is this a 'given' or is it something you learn? The truth is that either way, we all want it and you probably can't ever have enough of it. Only after investing in a good self confidence program did my perception of self confidence start to change - and thankfully so.Self confidence is nothing but a state of mind. It's an attitude and something that can be learned. Think about it - when you actually feel self confident it's only a feeling isn't it? It does not rely on anything outside yourself, but relies solely on the process of though and on how you organize ideas and response in your mind.

To be a confident person, ACT like a confident person. Think of someone who appears to be brimming with confidence and BE like them.Ask yourself: "What can I do to feel more confident?" Choose one thing you can do today to increase your feelings of Self-Confidence and do it. Take the first step. "A journey of 1000 miles..."Look your best - even if you work at home, even if you're a stay-at-home mom, even if there doesn't appear to be any real reason to care about your appearance. It's a way to respect yourself and you'll be ready to answer the door when opportunity knocks.

Such people should look at children. Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or how to swim.In fact, no child comes into the world knowing all the skills. But it does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills. Then, why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?Another myth is that only self-confident people can afford to take risks. This again is not true. In fact, self-confident people are more realistic about their capabilities. They know what they can do, and what they can't do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures.

In contrast, people who lack self-confidence are afraid of failure. This fear prevents them from taking on new tasks. They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they don't get it they end up losing their self-confidence.What is apparent is the lack of understanding. People must realize that self-confidence is a state of mind. It is not dependent upon a person's beauty or looks. It flows from a person's self-belief, and this belief can be built.All that a person needs to do is to debunk myths that self- confidence cannot be acquired or that self-confidence is a byproduct of exceptional knowledge, skills and luck. Once they do so, they will find it easier to acquire the same magnetic powers that self-confident people have.




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