Saturday 22 December 2012

Tips For Comforting The Bereaved

By Anne Sanders


While it is true that funeral customs in Singapore are very systematic, it doesn't mean that families of the deceased can actually handle the loss very well. Death in the family is never easy to go through and it is true for many cultures. Fortunately there are certain things that you can do to bring comfort to a friend who is suffering from grief. It is important to understand these so that you know what to do during the time of bereavement.

The Dos

Read a book about grief so that you can broaden your understanding about it. Before doing anything, you should understand how your friend suffers. Other emotions linked with grief are anxiety and anger. If your friend shows these signs, it means that he or she is totally stricken with grief. This is when you have to show your sympathy and you should let your friend know that you care. Saying too many words is not necessary.

Listen and share stories about the deceased. Talking with the family about the dead person, especially sharing amusing stories, helps remove the emotional burden. It helps them remember that their deceased loved one lived a good life and that the family was an essential part of it. You can share funny anecdotes and some of the deceased's favorite quotes. Just remember to listen when it's the family's turn to speak.

funeral services in Singapore are often held in funeral homes which typically provide private rooms for the family of the deceased. This is also true for the Crematorium Singapore funeral service providers offer. In these rooms, you will find a space where you can let your friend cry out. Always remember that your friend will only find a way to move on if he or she can let out all those feelings. When this moment comes, be ready to give a hug.

The Don'ts

Experts say that you must avoid telling clichs like "It is God's will," "I understand how you feel," or "Time can heal everything." Don't discourage your friend from telling stories. Moreover, don't tell your friend to stop crying. Letting your friend simply cry out can be one of the best things that you can do.




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