Sunday 24 February 2013

How To Stop Negative Thoughts And Boost Your Confidence

By Lachlan Haynes


Why So Serious?

Random question without notice: Have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? In other words, has anyone ever said something to you like 'no, you're wrong' (even though you knew you were right), 'you're an idiot', 'you're stupid', 'you'll never amount to anything', or 'you're never going to achieve anything in your life'? Has anything like this ever happened?

It's important you reflect on this because attacks like this on young people have been shown to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often remain with the person for their entire life! Comments like this can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. When someone is told they are 'pathetic' or 'useless' or 'stupid' by a higher (and often respected or feared) authority than them (such as a sibling, classmate, parent, teacher, relative, older stranger) the individual can actually believe that to be the truth - even without any evidence to support it. The biggest problem however is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school and college.

To read the full article please follow the links below.

What's Your Worth?

If you have a low sense of self-esteem you will also have poor feelings about your abilities and your worth. Unfortunately, low self-esteem also results in low achievement level at school. This is because low self-esteem directly impacts your confidence, your attitude, your resilience and your enthusiasm for learning. But we don't want to be negative about it! We want to provide you with some solutions don't we! So, what can you do about it?

Time To Make A Change!

Here are some ideas on things you can do to make your ego soar. Soar like an eagle. Did you ever know that you're my hero? You are the wind beneath my wings. OK sorry it's getting weird. Let's get into it.

1. Remember to be positive all the time - about everything single thing! If you don't feel positive just fake it. That's right, fake it! Fake it till you make it! There's little point in being negative anyway because it doesn't solve the problem does it? It actually just makes things worse. So, try being positive about every single thing for one whole week - even if it makes you feel sick! Give it a go. See what happens. You won't regret that you did. You'll also be surprised at how it trains your inner voice to start giving you positive feedback as well.

2. Think of all the things you are good at and all the success you have created. If you're not sure ask your parents or your friends. Write these things down and keep adding to the list as you think of anything. Read the list every morning when you wake up and any time you need a confidence boost. Just write things that make you feel good and you know are true. You will find there are many more amazing things about you than you realized. If you think there isn't you're just being negative again! Focus on the good.

3. Stop comparing yourself with other students. You have no idea what other people's lives are really like because you don't live their life. Things are never what they seem. So what are you comparing yourself to anyway? The only comparison worth making is that of comparing yourself today with yourself yesterday. Are you better today than you were yesterday? If so, how? Always strive to improve yourself each day and you will make huge gains over the course of a week, a month and a year.

4. Get involved in activities you actually enjoy. You will likely be successful in these activities which will boost your confidence. It doesn't matter whether you are good at art, marbles, butt-slapping or sport, just do things that make you feel good and things that get you excited (don't do anything that harms others please!)

To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!




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