There are few things which are more thrilling than when you're first meeting someone you're interested in, you're having a lively conversation and you feel like you're really hitting it off and establishing a connection - until the inevitable awkward pause. You can feel all of the momentum you've built up until this moment starting to slip away. Worst of all is that the harder you frantically try keeping a conversation going , the more likely you are to say something awkward which practically ensures more uncomfortable silence.
The truth of the matter is that everyone will have a moment awkward when they are talking with another person. Instead of beating yourself up over this moment, you can use the following techniques to keep the conversation going and this could help to avoid having those moments of silence that you are dreading.
Repetition
Should you find that you are at a loss, you can simply take the last few things she said and repeat them. This extends the time you have to speak and it will allow you potentially be saved should she decide that she wants to elaborate on the topic. In her eyes, she is going to think you are a great listener. Should she keep the conversation going, you are going to have additional time to think about what you want to say about it. During this time, keep eye contact with her and show you are invested in the conversation and you can learn more about her than you might have originally thought you could.
Query What She Said
One of the best ways to keep a conversation alive is to ask follow up questions which are relevant to what she's talking about. For example, why does she like or dislike what she's talking about? Her answers could open up opportunities for further discussion.
Avoid Closed Answers
For shy men, this can be one of the most tempting responses to give. You should do all you can to avoid this type of response. Instead, if you provide better defined answers, you can improve the conversation. The same can be said for short responses. An example is when someone asks you where you are from, don't just tell them the city, instead give them the city and some of the things you liked about the area.
Steer Clear Of "Me Too"
While there is nothing wrong with saying that you agree with someone, you do need to ensure you try to add something to the conversation. Your thoughts and views are valid and you could offer some new insight on the topic she might not have thought about before.
If Nothing Works
If you apply these principles, you'll be surprised how easy it can be to get a girl in bed. Basically, if none of the above works and an awkward pause ensues, you may be able to turn things around by making the silence itself the topic. It's not guaranteed to work, but asking her what it is that makes silence so uncomfortable in social situations could lead to an answer which says a lot about her and gives you a valuable opportunity to pick the conversation back up and keep moving ahead.
The truth of the matter is that everyone will have a moment awkward when they are talking with another person. Instead of beating yourself up over this moment, you can use the following techniques to keep the conversation going and this could help to avoid having those moments of silence that you are dreading.
Repetition
Should you find that you are at a loss, you can simply take the last few things she said and repeat them. This extends the time you have to speak and it will allow you potentially be saved should she decide that she wants to elaborate on the topic. In her eyes, she is going to think you are a great listener. Should she keep the conversation going, you are going to have additional time to think about what you want to say about it. During this time, keep eye contact with her and show you are invested in the conversation and you can learn more about her than you might have originally thought you could.
Query What She Said
One of the best ways to keep a conversation alive is to ask follow up questions which are relevant to what she's talking about. For example, why does she like or dislike what she's talking about? Her answers could open up opportunities for further discussion.
Avoid Closed Answers
For shy men, this can be one of the most tempting responses to give. You should do all you can to avoid this type of response. Instead, if you provide better defined answers, you can improve the conversation. The same can be said for short responses. An example is when someone asks you where you are from, don't just tell them the city, instead give them the city and some of the things you liked about the area.
Steer Clear Of "Me Too"
While there is nothing wrong with saying that you agree with someone, you do need to ensure you try to add something to the conversation. Your thoughts and views are valid and you could offer some new insight on the topic she might not have thought about before.
If Nothing Works
If you apply these principles, you'll be surprised how easy it can be to get a girl in bed. Basically, if none of the above works and an awkward pause ensues, you may be able to turn things around by making the silence itself the topic. It's not guaranteed to work, but asking her what it is that makes silence so uncomfortable in social situations could lead to an answer which says a lot about her and gives you a valuable opportunity to pick the conversation back up and keep moving ahead.
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